Let us get back to last November, spring. I was walking on the beach in Cariló with my friend Carla. Strolling alongside the ocean, trying not to get our feet wet, while chatting away.
We have a peculiar history together, Carla and I. Our friendship started with a kind of ‘blind date’, after my son insisted that his friend’s mom would be a perfect friend for me, and at the same time Carla’s son tried to convince her to make friends with me. Neither of them had ever done anything like this, nor did they ever do it again. Neither of us was inclined to listen to our offspring on this matter -we are well able to find our own friends-, but both our sons kept nagging so eventually we gave in.
Since then we have become best friends.
Then both our sons moved to the first world. She moved out, I moved out. And all of a sudden, she and I were walking on that beach in Cariló again, together, just like in the old days. She had moved back to Argentina, I had refurnished our place and am spending half my time in my adopted home land again.
That’s what we were discussing. Look at us, we left, we are back. Why on earth do we have this incredible urge to be here. Why are we so attracted to this place? Why do I consider this a country of delights? Definitely not because of its great economy, nor its fantastic politicians!
We discussed this for ages and we didn’t really come to a conclusion. Friends? Yes, for sure! Its beauty? Definitely! But what else? There must be something more!
We couldn’t quite put our finger on it, which does not come to a surprise, considering I, for years, had this Why on earth did I move to Argentina?-blog, and never found a consistent answer either. Carla said it’s the “je ne sais quoi“, which we then both accepted as final answer. It also sounded good.
But then totally out of the blue, at a moment I wasn’t even looking for the answer, it came to me during a podcast by Tiago Forte (a second brain). (more on him later)
Argentina is, just like Brazil (the country he describes), a developing country. He describes them as informal, where spontaneity and improvisations are part of daily life.
There’s just something in the air. There’s a magic. Things happen that just surprise you, that you would never expect. It’s this open ended possibility that things can happen that you didn’t expect or planned for. That is informality.
Tiago Forte, a second brain podcast
He totally nailed it.
I immediately called Carla to tell her the answer to our question.
She agreed. That is the ‘Je ne sais quoi‘ we were looking for. It is a magic, something in the air, things happen that just surprise you…!
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