The Feel Good Way

It’s Monday morning. The weekend has come to an end, and what a weekend it was. The weather couldn’t have been better, and we spent it hosting BBQs and enjoying quality time with friends and family. It was time well spent—but not exactly active.

Now it’s Monday.

I had planned to make up for the lack of movement with some exercise—not just one session, but both the gym and a HIIT workout. But when I wake up, I don’t feel like going to the gym. And as I sit with my coffee, I realise I don’t feel like doing a HIIT session either. The tone of the day is set.

I tend to be all or nothing, which isn’t always my best quality.

Still, I know I need to get myself going somehow. I can either push through and try to force myself to focus, or I can find a different way to ease into the day.

I chose the latter.

When I’m in the city, I love going to coffee shops with my bullet journal or laptop. It’s where I feel inspired and focused. I hadn’t thought too much about why that setting works for me—until recently. Turns out, it’s actually part of how I’m wired.

I have a triple split definition.

But what exactly is that and what does it mean?

In Human Design, the colored parts of your chart—defined centers, channels, and gates—represent the consistent energies that shape who you are. They show how energy flows within you, influencing how you think, act, and relate to others.

This pattern of energy flow is called your definition. You might have a single definition (where all your defined centers are connected) or a split (2 groups). Others—like me—have multiple groups that aren’t directly linked. In my case, I have three.

People with a single definition have all their defined centers connected through one continuous flow of energy. This allows the different traits and strengths in their chart to naturally work together, often creating a sense of internal harmony and ease—where everything feels integrated and communicates smoothly.

But not everyone has this type of connection. When your defined centers are grouped into separate parts each cluster of energy functions well on their own, but they don’t always easily connect with one another. As a result, it can feel like certain parts of yourself are working separately instead of as one unified system.

In Human Design, your definition shows not only how easily energy flows within you, but also how quickly you process information and how naturally your qualities work together. When your defined centers are connected, it’s like the pieces of a puzzle fitting smoothly—you feel balanced and things tend to come easily.

But definition isn’t just about how you function on your own. It also explains how you connect with others. On a deeper level, we’re drawn to people who can fill in the missing pieces of our puzzle—those connections between centers that we don’t have ourselves. This is a core part of being human and helps us feel whole.

Have you ever wondered why you instantly click with some people but not with others? Human Design helps explain this by showing the energetic “puzzle pieces” you’re searching for. Your chart reveals where you need connection, and how others can complete the circuit, linking your separated centers together.

With a triple split, you’re not usually looking for just one person to “complete” you—that’s almost impossible. Instead, you need several people around you to help connect your defined centers. One person alone might not give you that feeling of wholeness or fulfillment.

This can be confusing, especially if we grew up believing that one person should make us feel completely “whole.” For people like me, wholeness comes from connecting with different people—friends, colleagues, even strangers in public spaces. We naturally absorb the energies around you, which helps link our separated centers.

That’s why I end up in a coffee shop on a Monday morning. Even though my coffee at home tastes deliciously and I feel quite at ease there. Thinking about my triple split I just know I need to get out there more often. The so called date with myself is more than just a fun place or a place to relax. It is a place where I can unconsciously connect all my centers through the ernergy of others, where I get motivated, inspired, where I make plans and solve problems.

So, while I might skip the gym and the HIIT session today, I’m not truly standing still. By choosing to meet myself in a lively coffee shop, I’m honoring how my energy naturally flows and reconnects—with myself and with others. It’s a reminder that productivity and inspiration don’t always come from pushing harder, but sometimes from simply being in the right space, surrounded by the right people.

You too, have a unique way your energy moves and connects. And maybe the key to feeling whole isn’t just within you alone, but in the connections you create around you. For me, that means more coffee shops, more community, and more moments of gentle flow.

So here’s to finding your own rhythm—and letting your energy guide you, wherever it leads.

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